Rcvd an email from my friend about this. So, I post it here so that I can share with you all. Very interesting...Read it.
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.... Because it's happening
TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that ___ expression. It implies that you were just standing there ; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passisve and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of
EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsuquent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extra marital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does
NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this) :
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IN NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON ; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll
NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find"
LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the ____ expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is
NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
*Ok, got to go. I need to renew my driving license. It's already exp 3 weeks ago. Hahahaha...selambanya aku driving with the expired license!
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